3 More Reasons Why You Should Move Out Right Now
It's not easy to move out but it's harder to not live on your own terms.
If you’re afraid to move out, that’s probably because you should be.
And running away from what you’re afraid of is the worst thing you could do to yourself.
As psychotherapists usually say — Face your fears incrementally to overcome them.
Moving out could be one of the toughest things in your life but once you do that successfully, it could (and definitely would) turn into one of the best decisions you’ve ever made.
People who move out generally recommend the same to others and there are tons of reasons behind the idea.
The following 3 reasons to move out are just a small contribution to the same notion.
1. You start thinking for yourself
It is all sweet and comforting when someone else is taking care of all your meals and laundries.
In fact, that actually improves the relationship between you and the giver.
The problem doesn't lie in helping out with regular chores, it’s deeper than that.
The issue is when they make decisions on your behalf you. Or in other words, they decide what’s best for you.
The real issue is when they don't let you (even unintentionally) think what’s best for you.
When you live on your own, the tiniest of the things are to be done without anyone else’s aid.
You actively think what’s good for you and what isn't.
In this process, you might even discover a wide array of things about yourself, for example your preferences, tendencies, shortcomings, etc.
You could have never come across these things otherwise.
Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis said that a person cannot be a man until his father dies. And, his pupil Jung said that yes, but the death could be symbolic.
The point is that moving out is no different than the symbolic death of your parents.
Let me repeat, symbolic.
It is to say that the death is a symbol of the termination of authority and brings psychological independence.
2. You become stronger
We all have heard this from someone or another —
“The real world sucks and and is not easy to deal with.”
Well, you actually get the opportunity to test how much of it is true when you move out.
You’re in a nest when you don’t live on your own and your existence depends on others.
There’s a solid statement from the protagonist of a famous anime called Tokyo Ghoul —
“To live is to devour others.”
Obviously not literally but it’s something to think about. Animals (especially wild) compete and go for each others’ lives to make living.
Our Sapiens’ world work on the same lines but with a lot more complexity.
To be precise, the idea remains the same but the dynamics of the game changes.
For example, physical prowess is generally competence for animals, whereas, resources is competence for us.
Animals take others’ lives to survive and Sapiens take others’ money to survive but in an agreement that benefits the other party too.
Sapiens have a really smart arrangement for this.
The trade of competence involves competition but there is always a layer of co-operation surrounding it.
There are rules of the competition that the players try to make fair for each players.
Does it make it easier?
No, because competing is still involved.
Back to the original point —
When you don't live on your own, someone else competes for you and when you step out, you compete for yourself.
In both circumstances, the degree of competition doesn't change although the players change.
When you expose yourself to the game, you eventually become strong enough to not worry about the entire game.
It never gets easy, you become stronger.
3. You figure out your priorities
What priorities exactly?
Well, you figure out what people matter to you, what problems are worth dealing with, what skills you should be investing your time into, etc.
Moving out is literally stepping out of the mud of petty problems.
The thing is, you don't realize what matters to you until life asks you to make a choice.
You realize that you cannot go after everything and some things come at the cost of others.
Hence, the sacrifice has to be made even if it's tragic.
The finitude of time asks you to consciously sort out the priorities.
For the first time, you sit with yourself and ask what are you willing to give up at the cost of others.
At some point in your life, you have to deal with the above-mentioned complexes. However, they’re a lot easier to handle when you do it voluntarily.
